Newsletter for little t : Month 17

So, you are growing up on me little man....little big man I mean. Why do you have to grow so fast? I remember feeling you in my tummy...moving around so much, kicking and squirming, you felt amazing in there, but nothing compared to holding you for the first time...all 10 lbs of you! You are so sweet Tristan, I love it when you touch my face when you nurse, and on that note...what is up with the nursing lately?? I don't mind it, but geesh, you have been eating enough to feed a small country. I don't think you understand this Christmas thing, aside from trying to eat the "balls" off of the tree, you could care less about the shiny objects. I am really liking the new hugging thing that you have been doing when I pick you up. You stretch your arms out really wide, wrap them around me, and just hold on for about 10-15 seconds, being really still...I love it. I love you bub bub, you are amazing.

Love Momma.

Newsletter for Big T : Month 50

You turned 50 months on the 4th, you are so much more mature than most children your age, both refreshing and frightening all in the same breath. This month is a fun one for everyone, it's Christmastime again. I have a mixed feeling when talking to you about Santa and such...you are incredibly smart, and honestly, I have this feeling you know that we are lying to you about the man in red and you are just going along with it to appease us...which, I do appreciate. All in the same, I do sometimes feel a tiny bit bad that we have resorted to a type of bribery by means of "Be a good girl because Santa is coming..." but hey, your 4 and sometimes if that is what it is going to take to make you stop asking me the same question OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER....well, you get the picture. You asked me where he gets in the house since we don't have a chimeny...I at first said the attic, then you had this sort of startled look on your face and looked up to the ceiling in this way as if thinking "So, there is someone in the attic???" in retrospect, that was probably a really stupid thing to say to a recently scared of the dark 4 year old...so, I quickly backpedled and said that we gave him a key. PHEW, averted disaster, again..this parenting thing is not as easy as it looks my dear. You will see, you are going to have a smarty pants little girl too, and coming up with cleverly witty things to trick her will be hard! I love you boo boo bean, thanks for keeping me on my toes.

Love Momma.

Patience

We all need it, we all learn about it slowly, and if you have children....well then, PATIENCE is a whole new ballgame. Trinity has been going through a new phase where she has become a bit impatient, which, results in ME becoming a bit impatient LOL. I am trying to figure out the best way to teach her this very important virtue, but in the quest have found that I need to learn more patience too. I remind myself (at the end of the day while staring at her peaceful sleeping face) that she is only 4 years old. Just 4...think about what happens to us in 4 years...alot, but we have a lifetime of experiences to assist us in dealing with it all...4 is her lifetime!!!



So, whenever there are those "I don't understand why MY CHILD is acting like this" moment I urge everyone to think in terms of a lifetime of years...and how LITTLE your child has been on this earth. Give them slack, don't push too hard, relax and bend a little...at the end of the day, all that matters is that they are healthy, happy and loved.

I think all too often people are all consumed with how their child is going to behave that they miss the learning experience in it all. They are going to make mistakes, they are going to fail, they are going to make messes and be loud....don't judge, be understanding, give them a safe environment to succeed and all will be as it should. Nothing saddens me more than the mom or dad that is so consumed with training or programming their child that they become this walking program of their design, lacking individual quirkiness that makes us all who we are. The parent thinks "oh, my child is so well behaved" when in reality, the child has only done something that makes the parent happy, but not themselves. One day, those children are going to ditch their parents ideals and start forming their own, and hopefully, when that happens, they were given enough love and guidence, not manipulation, to think for themselves.


Wowza, that was a tangent! But, really...have you hugged your child today LOL? Be patient, life is a long process, and we want to allow our children the maximum chance at a loving, healthy life...there is plenty of time to be patient!